I try to think back of what it was like when I held my children for the first time. That moment is insane, and filled with crazy emotions. You are so excited, so tired, and so fat. I was under the impression I would go right back to normal after I had the baby. Turns out, you still look pregnant. For a while. Who knew!
Anyways, I kind of wish I had kept a note pad filled with what I felt at that moment, and maybe throughout those first few weeks, It was such a blur. All I remember is severe exhaustion, wearing yoga pants all day every day, and my boobs hurt more than words can describe.
Two friends of mine recently had the most beautiful little babies! I thought it would be fun to ask them some questions and see what’s going on in their head. If anything, maybe they can look back on their answers and remember this amazing time in their life that passes too quickly…or, they can show their kids this post when they ask how they entered this world…HA!
Me: What was the first thing you thought when they handed you your beautiful baby?
Ashley: That he is perfect & healthy! I was overwhelmed with so many emotions and just kept thinking how blessed my husband & I were.
Liz: Baby we made it! I was extremely happy that everything went well and I know this is a TMI, but, I didn’t poop. I was so worried of the possibility of that happening! I will never forget her little hand touching my face as they put her on my chest and she slowly moved her way down to latch on and eat. At that moment, I knew that we would forever have a special bond that no one could ever break. She is my everything, she is perfect!
Me: Was your birthing experience everything you wanted it to be? Did you have a Birth Plan?
Ashley: Our birth plan was simple. I wanted a vaginal delivery if possible, with an epidural. But, if complications occurred we were good with a C-Section. Just wanted the best & safest way for our baby & myself.
Liz: Being a first time mom I had no idea what to expect besides all the stories and advice everyone had given me, but, we all know that not everyone’s experience is the same. I really didn’t have a plan and just hoped that my baby wouldn’t turn breech, to avoid a cesarean. I would have to say that I had the easiest and fastest labour I could ever imagine. I don’t know where all my strength came from since I’m a huge cry baby and I HATE pain…but, I was determined to suck it up. I couldn’t do it without the help of the epidural and my husband doing the breathing exercises with me. The joking around of my doctor and nurses, and the amazing ice chips I would eat during my reps of pushing. It allowed me to stay focused and in less than 2 hours, my gorgeous baby was born.
Me: On a scale of 1-10, how sleep deprived are you?
Ashley: As of now 3 weeks in, it varies daily. Today I am only a 3 since G had a great night and gave us 4 1/2 hours straight sleep, but there are nights where I am a 6/7….. I am getting use to looking like a walking zombie.
Liz: I would say a 5. We have our good days where she can sleep without waking up every 2 hours to eat and other days were she won’t go to sleep and is up all night fussy. She’s my little night owl. But when she sleeps, Mommy and Daddy take advantage and sleep. She loves sleeping in the middle of us in our bed when we take naps throughout the day. Once I’m up, I’m up, so it doesn’t matter if she keeps me up or wakes up every 2 hours to eat.
Me: What baby product have you used the most?
Ashley: We are loving our Fisher Price Rock N Play as well as the Graco Gliding Swing, Both lifesavers!!
Me: What stroller did you choose?
Ashley: We went with the Quinny Buzz which I LOVE. It rides so smooth and is easy to open and close. Plus it is lightweight and easy for me to put/take out of car by myself. Very happy with this choice.
Liz: Bugaboo Buffalo. I am so in love with it, there is not one thing I don’t love about it!
Me: What Car Seat did you decide on and why?
Ashley: We went with the Maxi Cosi Micro AP. So far I am happy with this car seat. I love how light it is and the self wicking fabric which in FL is a must!
Liz: Britax Marathon ClickTight because it was convertible and after going to see the car seats and asking people for their opinion on the mommy groups I’m in, Britax was one of the best choices for Car Seats and the ClickTight was their new lineup with 12 position harness and 7 position recline. I also bought the Maxi-Cosi which is the one I’m using. It’s lightweight and it’s easy to snap in and out and adapt to the Buffalo.
Me: If you had to give a Mommy to be one piece of advice, what would it be?
Liz: 2 things I would tell a Mommy.
1. Get the epidural!! It does NOT hurt and there are no side effects like other people may tell you. Or at least I didn’t experience them. The epidural is a game changer once you are experiencing some heavy pain. Not even your breathing exercises can help you relax!
2. Take the Birthing Classes. As a first time Mom, you have no idea what to expect and every family member or friend will always have advice on what to do or how to do things. But, guess what? Things change over the years. We live in a world of technology and what maybe used to work 10 or 20 years ago, can be different now. Me and my Hubby learned so much from the classes and by far the breastfeeding was our favorite one. Trust me, no one is an expert in being a parent and there is no book that can teach you. You kind of have to figure it out on your own but it doesn’t hurt to gain some knowledge and listen to other parents questions and concerns that maybe you never thought of.
Me: How many hours do you think you spent researching baby products over these last 9 months?
Ashley: Many hours & many nights! Being a first time mom I reviewed EVERYTHING and researched for countless hours. I would definitely say over 300 hours within those 9 months.
Me: How has your life changed now that you’re a Parent?
Liz: I think life just got 100 times better. I couldn’t ask for anything else better in this world. Everything is about Isabella. Yes, it’s not the same as it was before when I could go to the mall and shop until I dropped, go out have dinner and drinks with my hubby or friends, or even travel to Cancun every year but none of that matters anymore. I look forward to my sleepless nights to seeing my daughter grow… And once she’s older, taking her to all the places we love to visit.
Me: What’s the best piece of advice you’ve received so far?
Liz: Getting an infant car seat. I was so reluctant about getting one and had chosen a convertible car seat (which I still have). I didn’t want to be that mom that would be carrying the car seat with me everywhere I went but, it has made it easier to use. Especially since I can adapt it to the stroller. She loves to sleep in it and as everyone says…Never wake up your sleeping baby!
I totally loved reading the answers Ashley and Liz gave me. I miss those newborn baby days (except the explosive poops and waking up every 2 hours). Becoming a parent is completely life changing. It’s so cliché, but, the minute they hand you your baby, nothing else matters!
I am sure we can ALL relate to some of these answers. I was a lot like Ashley, and reviewed EVERYTHING over and over again. It made me feel prepared! I also had the same fears as Liz when it came to delivery… Who really wants to poop on their adorable little baby!?! But, shit happens. I would know…
Being a Mom is awesome, but also really scary. You do so much preparation for these little humans. I was fully expecting a crash course after I had the kids, but, the nurse just gave Brody to me and was all “Congrats! Here’s your baby!”. Meanwhile, I was having a panic attack because now I had to actually take him home AND keep him alive!!! The terror.
Obviously, you figure it out and adjust to your new lifestyle. Life is forever changed, but only for the better! Ladies, I am so happy for you both! Congratulations on joining the glamorous world of being a Mom! (ps. it’s not glamorous, at all.)
Ashley, if Graham is anything like you, he is going to have the BEST personality ever! He is one lucky little dude to have you as his Mama!
Liz, If Isabella is anything like you, Sal will be working until he’s 100! ha!! I can’t wait to see her grow up and be just as beautiful as her Mommy!
Thank you both, for answering my little questionnaire! Now, go get some rest…or Starbucks!